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give the impression that you find her an interesting person
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"give the impression" ?? Either you find her an interesting person or not, Jordan -you don't need to act..
I think it's a good idea to have her choose the location for the first date, so long as it's not something you think will be a complete bore
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If you do think that her choice would be a complete bore -tell her so !
It's not better to propose something different that shefinds a complete
bore.
You know, I like doing loads of things that my husband finds a complete bore
(Casebook for one !), and vice versa..it hasn't stopped us being happily together for 20 years (married for 10 of them).
If the chemistry is there, it will all work by itself.
I think you should just ask her for a drink and mutual interests will just come up naturally in the conversation. If you both get off on each other, you'll soon find compromises (in a positive sense !) anyhow..
in my single days my friends and I would give guys points for effort. If some guy came up to me, and faced ridicule and embarrassment, possibly even physical harm, and could make me laugh, he got major points. I wouldn't necessarily go out with him, but he got a drink.
One guy walked up to me and my best friend and he told her
"if you don't agree to go out with me in the next 5 minutes, I am going to dance with your friend all night, and buy her drinks. Then, next weekend, I am going to bring her dozens of roses and cook her a gourmet meal. We may then see a movie. After that I will spend hours on the phone with her, and I will dedicate myself to the sole purpose of making her love me, and making her happy for the rest of our lives together. So ask yourself one question: are you really willing to subject her to that?"
And he did. We were together for three years. It ended up not working out, but I wouldn't trade that time for anything.
When I met my fiance he told me the tattoo up his forearm was "an artistic representation of whale song" and I am horrified because what a stupid thing to tattoo on yourself, plus now I feel bad because he's obviously a sensitive moron and I'm trying to think of something nice to say, and I can't...
and he starts laughing at the look on my face and tells me that it's just a design, but that he appreciated that i was so desperately trying to come up with something kind in response.
And since thats totally my sense of humor we havent spent more than 5 days apart since then.
The early bird might get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.
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"give the impression" ?? Either you find her an interesting person or not, Jordan -you don't need to act..
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No, you don't need to act (well, maybe a bit) but if you do find her interesting make sure she knows it. And humour is a very strong way to move things along but I wouldn't come over all Robin Williams if I were you. Emo Phillips is probably not good either.
the fact she already gave you her email is a green light and a good sign that she wants to get to know you better, either as a friend or something more...so take courage and just ask her. Say something along the lines of you enjoy her company and would like to spend some time with her if she would also like that. After she says yes, which I am sure she will, you can both discuss where you would like to go.
Good luck and enjoy.
Jen x
babybird
There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved.
could be, "reefering" is one my main daily activity together with stalking other cats.
Monty- yes it's waaaay too... "anatolian" for my taste, when i walk in southern France or Italy and see these men, i understand better why i tend to date other girls.
David and Ruby, garlic is always a win!!! jolly good luck with your lewd garlic romance
Jordan, Errata is right, nothing beats a guy with humor!!!, now just find out what makes her laugh, i can not tell you to give her dry british humor cause that only works on me.
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