Females help me out with some advice

[Steven Russell]

Hello, Jordan.
Not that I'm an expert in these things but it strikes me that if the lady works in a restaurant, a meal or coffee might not be the best idea as a date suggestion. She might be heartily sick of restaurants although you never know. The big thing is to get her talking and try to steer the conversation so she ends up talking about herself and her own interests. Whatever she starts talking about, encourage her to tell you more as you find it interesting. Don't try to impress her too much with stuff about yourself.

If you are nervous, try not to worry about it (easier said than done of course) and remember that the difference between acting confident and actually being confident is very small indeed if it even exists at all. Most people who appear confident are faking it or have been faking it for so long that the fakery has become real! Don't go babbling on about yourself too much until she knows you better. Be modest and if you have a natural dry wit so much the better.

Above all, give the impression that you find her an interesting person. Since you are already attracted to her and think she's cool, that should be easy. I think it's a good idea to have her choose the location for the first date, so long as it's not something you think will be a complete bore. There'll be plenty of time to introduce her to your world later unless, of course, something comes up in conversation she really likes the sound of. And leave your leather apron at home.

Just my thoughts for what they are worth which is probably not much.

Good luck, Old Boy and let us know how you get on.

Steve.

[Sister Hyde]

I've always been an all cards on the table kind of girl.

"I see your commitment issues and raise you a Bipolar Disorder"

but then, I get invested quickly, so it works to my benefit to lay out all of the potentially scary stuff on the first date.

good one, i gotta try it!

[Errata]

I've always been an all cards on the table kind of girl.

"I see your commitment issues and raise you a Bipolar Disorder"

but then, I get invested quickly, so it works to my benefit to lay out all of the potentially scary stuff on the first date.

[Sister Hyde]

Hi Jordan
If none of that works, there's always Monty's advice

I start to suspect that you guys are trying to get Jordan locked up.

[tji]

Hi Jordan

My advice would be to just be yourself, if you are normally quiet and soft spoken don't be loud and make a joke of everything when asking her out, if she is interested she will be interested in proper you and may be put off if you act forced.

Also an idea may be to ask her if she has any suggestions as to where to go if she does say yes.

Lol yeah I agree with everyone, keep away from Jtr unless you want a scenario like C.d's.

If none of that works, there's always Monty's advice

Tj

[Sister Hyde]

Only if youre lucky Ms Hyde.

Monty

I'm not sure "lucky" is appropriate yet, i'll tell you when i know the animal a bit better

[Monty]

Not yet, mister Monty, but we're bound to get to know eachother

Only if youre lucky Ms Hyde.

Monty

[DVV]

Ooooh, funny thread !

[Sister Hyde]

surprising but it's a good advise. what do you know about it??? maybe this girl is a psycho and a stalker under her neat well-educated child appearance ahahah

[c.d.]

And to add insult to injury, the young lady was drinking martinis with Grey Goose vodka no less and was really knocking them back. We also had appetizers. When the bill came, in keeping with her genetic makeup, her hand froze. Like a schmuck I picked up the check. Grey Goose ain't cheap let me tell ya.

c.d.

[DVV]

Hi Jordan,
seriously, my first advice would be : don't be obsessed with her too much...Women are plenty....Be cool and easy and you'll see...
Good luck !

[DVV]

But don't mention your interest in the Ripper. I made the mistake once of doing that on a blind date .... "Oh wow, look at the time"..."I didn't realize it was so late"...."this has been fun." And that was that.

c.d.

[c.d.]

Hi Jordan,

First of all good show for being brave enough to come on here and talk about your romantic problems.

Just ignore all the smart ass answers.

I would suggest going somewhere for a drink. Alcohol helps people relax and feel more comfortable. That way you can talk and find out more about her interests.

But don't mention your interest in the Ripper. I made the mistake once of doing that on a blind date .... "Oh wow, look at the time"..."I didn't realize it was so late"...."this has been fun." And that was that.

c.d.

[Sister Hyde]

Yes mister Vlad, but if he doesn't know what to talk about it won't work for very long

[Sister Hyde]

First, ask her to the most decrepit carny you can find.On the ride there, talk freely of your ripper interest. When you get to the fun house ( and while she is not looking) slip on a hockey mask and a top hat) and see what develops from there.

What works on me doersn't work on other girls usually, so i'm not so sure