Originally posted by GregBaron
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Dr. Stout did a lot of fine research, but the 4% number is very soft. Some research indicates that it's as high as 20%. Some says it as low as .01%. The truth is we have no idea. We see sociopathy as a binary state. And it isn't. There is a scale. And we know there's a scale, but we still tend to think that anyone who "passes" is a sociopath, and those who don't are not. It is possible that the sociopaths who are so high on the scale that their brain is rewired are in the .01%. And that 20% of the population scores slightly above "normal" on the test. I've never seen the actual research so I don't know what they are measuring.
I have a "friend" whose sociopathy is so severe he is considered a "null". He pretty much doesn't feel anything other than anger and amusement. I amuse him. Better than the alternative. He's not law abiding, but he's not violent. He doesn't experience anger enough to lose perspective that hurting someone will land him in jail. He's a cool guy I gotta say. If I ever need an honest opinion, I ask him. He's not mean. He doesn't get pleasure from hurting people. He's just not afraid to lose someone either. He sees all relationships as an exchange of benefits. Which they are. He has never made a bad business decision. It's uncanny. We've been on the outs, we make up. He's never threatened me, and I've never been afraid of him. I've been afraid FOR him more than once when his adventures in crime have gotten beyond what I considered acceptable.
And I had to explain to him that there are places he can steal from that I'm okay with, and places I'm not okay with. He doesn't understand why I laugh when he rips off Wal Mart, but get pissed off when he takes his neighbors packages. It's the same to him. And I've learned over the years how to present an argument, because "wrong" doesn't play with him. I have to tell him that if he steals from his neighbor and she finds out, she's going to be angry at him, and that will make his life difficult, but if he steals from Wal Mart, no one will be angry, so no one will be personally gunning for him. But he knows that's not why I'm mad, so I have to explain to him that I hate Wal Mart, but his neighbor is a nice old lady. He accepts my first argument, but requires my second so he knows what makes me mad.
It's not all serial killers and dictators. A lot of these guys are just living normal lives. Even being a sociopath or a psychopath does not predict a serial killer. There is literally nothing where we can say "If someone is (blank) then they are a serial killer. Nothing fills in that blank. Except "serial killer". If someone is a serial killer, then they are a serial killer.
We all want to know what makes these guys tick. But know your motives. If you want to find out in order to eliminate it, dangerous ground. Back away slowly.
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