Valentine's Day is just a bunch of bollocks!!!

[mariab]

LOL. That cracked me up, Z.. I loved it when they run out of cake.
I wouldn't mind having some cake now. Or death? Mmmm... pretty hard choice. I need to ponder a bit over it.

[Hatchett]

And Love and Peace to you Baby Bird.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.

[Sister Hyde]

dammit i can't put the sound for this video i'm at work!!! i wanna laugh too!

[kensei]

I didn't click on this thread when it first appeared because I thought it was going to be the standard "Valentine's Day is a fake holiday invented by the greeting card companies" type thing, but I just decided to check it out and it turns out I can really relate to it.

Sister Hyde, it is definitely not only men who can totally turn out to be something the opposite of what you thought they were and ruin your faith. As The Grave Maurice pointed out, it is not men or women but people in general. I was once very much in love with a woman who turned out to be a certifiable pathological liar. Her solution to "wanting a little space" was to actually fake being pregnant by someone else (and with triplets no less, and she had previously faked having breast cancer for reasons too complex to go into) and then to impersonate me online and send crazy threatening e-mails to herself with my name signed to them that turned mutual friends against me. Wow. Later I would learn that the cancer and the pregnancy were both completely fake, that large parts of her life story were made up including how old she said she was, and that she was guilty of an embezzlement charge made against her by an employer that she'd sworn she was innocent of, for which she served two years probation. And that's just a sampling. It was in 2005, but just in the past year she suddenly contacted me to say how sorry she was for everything. It was hard to take seriously, but at the same time though I could have easily let the experience make me refuse to trust people ever again, I decided that I refused to live that way because trust is a virtue, and I understand that she has a mental illness and that thankfully people like her are rare. So I actually forgave her, which- take my word for it- can be tremendously liberating if you really mean it.

In the aftermath of that I ended up with someone wonderful, with whom I've had many ups and downs but who I trust in 100% and love with all my heart. We seldom agree on music, movies, or areas of interest and she totally shakes her head at why anyone would be fascinated with Jack the Ripper even though she is a historian, but somehow we are made for each other. Because of past experiences she has decided never to marry, so we are in agreement to simply date forever.

Oh, and JTR Sickert, for you I offer some words of wisdom from- of all places- "South Park"! When Butters had his heart broken by the Raisins girl he'd been in love with, when Stan and the goth kids found him crying in the rain he delivered the following heartfelt speech:

"I'm sad, but at the same time I'm really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It makes me feel alive, you know, feel human. The only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt something really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I'm feeling now is a beautiful sadness."

Hope this long post makes up for coming in late.

[Sister Hyde]

I know that kind of persons Kensei, it's very ****ed up to actually lie about everything all the time, these people even lie about the most simple every day things, the father of my son was like that too, when he shipped us back to paris and was supposed to follow, every week he was "buying a new thalys ticket", and every week he had some wonderfull stories about why he didn't come and didn't even call me to tell me and was letting me stand at the train station for hours (the douanes took him in schipol without id card, his shrinks said he had to stay to run test for sleeping apneu, he was hearing satan telling him to kill when he arrived at the station to go to amsterdam so he went back home, je lost his pills the same morning before leaving so he had to wait 2 days to get some new, and so on and so on and it is still nothing compared to the excuses he had for cheating on me stealing money, threatening my belly with knives and not showing for labour, i honestly doubt thazt this guy even realized how old he was and what his name really was, but one thiçng is for sure he DID realize what he was doing he told me once "thanks to all this mumbo jumbo i feed my team of shrinks at the FPK, i'll get pension and will never have to get up again in my life to go to work" and when i left him i wanted him to tell me a little bit of the truth on at leazst a couple of points, he only replied "yeah i treated you like ****, ahahah i'm the greatest deceiver there is, satan is proud of me"). although i should have already stopped forgiving him and should have left him 1 and a half year before that already, it's just that when you're in love you keep hoping that things will change.
by the way "Valentine's Day is a fake holiday invented by the greeting card companies" ahahahahahah I love grandpa Simpson (season 3 episode "I love Lisa"), but i'(m happy you found your other half, there is nothing wrong in not getting married, i don't think i will ever marry either, but i hope someday i find a man i will love and trust so i can give my little boy some brothers and sisters (in about 6 or 7 years or so)

[Hatchett]

Hi Kensei,

I think you are so right about forgiving. It can be very liberating. If you do not forgive then really you are allowing the person who really hurt you to still control you in someway. If they have already hurt you then that is the worst thing you can do. Better to forgive and let go. What goes around comes around, so in the end everyone gets what they deserve whether that be good or bad. It used ( and possible still is ) called Karma.

We all have to pay in the end for the hurt we cause. and of course in the end we shall all find the love that we deserve, and a love from someone who is worthy of that love.

It is the way of things for the true and positive minded.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.

[Sister Hyde]

yeah i wish i could shelter in indifference to find some rest. i can't do it yet, but i'm waiting for it, and when it comes i'll make sure it never runs away, i'll stab Mister Indifference in the back and get it stuffed in my living room. Mister Hatchett, Karma still does exist, but nowadays it's sooo very busy with all the crap happening, that it can take decades before your case is being handled

[Hatchett]

Hi Sister Hyde,

I know things look black for you at the moment. But things will pick up, gradually. Just have a little faith and take it day by day. Karma is a powerful force that though busy never forgets. It will work for you. Just cling in there and you will find happiness in the end. And this time it will be the happiness that you deserve.

But you have to have the faith, and keep watching for it.

Take care.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.

[Sister Hyde]

ahah yeah i know it will work and when it does it will be huge, i'm like a cockroach, i can survive everything!!!
I have one hapiness much bigger, it screams "kiekie" (cookie) and bangs on the door of the shelf in the kitchen and every night when i come from work at20.30 it's standing in front of the window and it's face just lights up from one ear to another

[Hatchett]

Hi Sister Hyde,

There you are then. You have something huge in your life that shines like a jewel. So things are not all bad. You still have your belief in your own survival. And you have faith in the future.

Really that is all you need. The rest will happen by themselves.

Just one day at a time.

Concentrate on the love and light that shines around you.

It will help you get through the temporary darkness that enshrouds you at the moment.

Best wishes.

Hatchett
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