Valentine's Day is just a bunch of bollocks!!!

[babybird67]

there are good and bad in both sexes...

I don't think it is helpful to generalise.

People have hurt me before, but I think the only person it truly hurts if anyone refuses to trust again is the person themselves.

Everyone is deserving of being treated as an individual and of having trust unless they prove themselves unworthy of it.

Life is a wondrous cycle of pleasure and pain, and broken hearts are all part of the great experience of life. We may think we will never recover, but we will, and we will experience love and joy again.

Love and peace to all.

[mariab]

I was also going to say that maybe Sister Hide should connect with Maria (if she's currently in Paris) and they could both go to a nice little restaurant in the 6th and talk about how rotten men are. But I see they've connected on another thread, so I've decided not to say anything.

I might be game, as long as the cannibalism part and the Ramirez part were a joke. ;-) And no, I'm not currently in Paris.
Not really my thing to claim that “all men are rotten“. Some men are as*holes and some women are b*tches, so it kinda evens out. Custody battles can get real ugly, and after they're settled one's stuck semi-frequenting someone one might not wish to ever see again for the rest of their life, for the kid's sake. (My two cents on the matter.)
And another thing: Time heals all wounds, physical or emotional.

[Sister Hyde]

well i do believe they exist, but i think they are much older than me as well, they are people who already have a whole life behind them, people who in general, don't really aspire to build a new life

[Hatchett]

Take your time, Sister Hyde. The bitterness will go if the disillusionment doesnt. There are people out there who you will be able to trust. You will find them someday when you are ready, even if now you don't believe that they exist.

Take care.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.

[Sister Hyde]

Mister Grave Maurice, the sex of the person doesn't matter, a rotten apple, is a rotten apple, and when women start to get rotten, they are usually very vicious, it's like, you don't suspect a thing and they suddenly blow up at your face telling you all ther crap that has been going on in your back (ahahahah studying in english boarding schools as also teached me what being in a relationship with a girl can be like). But yeah if Maria is soon coming to Paris there are definitely nice restaurants around Luxembourg and Saint Michel.

Mister Hatchett, i might be stronger, but men don't like fierce and sour crazy cat ladies ahahahah. what i mostly aspire to feel is...numb. then you can't feel passion, but you also can't feel pain. the man i will give a chance to, i don't ask him for the moon, only to be true, passionate, stable, sweet, and to have a very corrosive sense of humor of course ahahah.

[The Grave Maurice]

This thread was just about to break my heart. I was going to say that all men are rotten. But then, I thought about a couple of women who treated me (in my opinion) very badly. So I was going to say that all women are rotten. In the end, I thought I might say that everyone can be rotten from time to time.

I was also going to say that maybe Sister Hide should connect with Maria (if she's currently in Paris) and they could both go to a nice little restaurant in the 6th and talk about how rotten men are. But I see they've connected on another thread, so I've decided not to say anything.

[Hatchett]

Hi,

Hang in there Sister Hyde, we have all felt like that when we have been hurt. I know that you have been hurt worse than most. You must allow yourself to heal, both physically and mentally. Think of your own, and your child's, survival first as you are doing, the rest will come in time. There is always hope and there is time for you to meet someone who is really worthy of you. Next time you will be more cautious, but you will be stronger. Just take your time. Rest and allow yourself to get well.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.
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[Sister Hyde]

I'm not sure mister Hatchett, i've been to hell and back, but somehow i think this might be the drop that makes the vase flow over. i don't think i'll ever trust a male human being again, any of them can also be an asperger/schizo affectiv freak who will just take advantage of my feelings and break me emotionally, physically, financially and socially. for me this has probably been worst than the 7 years i spent raised in a catholic dominican school for naughty girls (and after that i never ever thought anything could be worst), the only thing i'm happy about is that i'm still having the child (who the child protection services tried to snatch from me because of the father), and that no one can take away from me!!! that's maybe the first thing even the judges in the netherlands mentioned "a fierce mother fighting like a tigress".

[Hatchett]

Hi Sister Hyde,

That really must have been a bad time for you. I am pleased that you are now responding with self belief and self reliance. Sometimes in life it is perhaps an unwelcome but required experiance that you glimpse the abyss and have to crawl up out so that you can stand and see the first traces of Spring, scarred but triumphant.

Best wishes.

Hatchett.
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[Sister Hyde]

Sorry to hear that JTR, well it makes 2 of us ahahah, my man is now in bed with a woman he was cheating on me with during my pregnancy and after putting me through the worst things in my life, abandonning me and the boy in the worst conditions (don't try to find out what conditions because it's beyond all the misery you could imagine).
try to cheer up, if she can't be happy with you, she won't be happy with someone else (or more likely she'll get the same feeling with someone else and the same will happen). my own consolation is to know that he's soon to be committed without ever being able to get out in what dutchmen call a FPK, and that soon he won't be able to tell his own name or where he is(hurray for injections of risperdal mixed with cisordinol and other benzodiazepine!!!)

[Robert]

After 30 years, she'd probably have scoffed the sharks.

[caz]

Believe me, after 30 years she'd have scoffed the chocs and ordered you back into the water to take your chances with the sharks and fetch Johnny Depp next time.

Love,

Caz
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[Zodiac]

And all because...

Hi JTR

Yes, it's awful when it happens. Maybe 30 years from now you'll think, "At least I don't have to swim through shark-infested waters with a box of chocs for her now."

Hi JTR, hi Robert,

Wise words Robert, wise words!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1pg1zpNgB0

Best wishes,
Zodiac.

[Robert]

Hi JTR

Yes, it's awful when it happens. Maybe 30 years from now you'll think, "At least I don't have to swim through shark-infested waters with a box of chocs for her now."

[caz]

Hi JTR,

Try to think of it this way. It can take a lot of courage to end a one-sided relationship. Many plough on with someone they care for but don't love, or love but don't like, more afraid of causing conflict or pain than living for many years with the wrong person for the wrong reasons. It must surely be kinder in the long run that your girl is letting you live and love again now, rather than staying with you more for your sake than hers. That could have led to far deeper resentment and unhappiness for both of you further down the line.

I'm a fine one to talk, as I have had two marriages and many a long year learning the hard way, showing about as much courage as a blancmange. I wish you loads of love and luck in the future, and a long life to enjoy it - with the right person next time.

Because you're worth it.

Love,

Caz (blimey I'm turning into Claire Rayner!)
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