masturbator or self-harmer?

[Phil H]

Dorothy Parker, the US columnist, has a parrot which she called Onan, "because he spilled his seed on the ground"!

[jason_c]

Masturbation can have a detrimental effect on an individual if it ends up with an individual relying on such practices instead of a healthy sexual relationship with another person (or heck even multiple persons).

The Victorian belief in the dangers of self abuse does have a kernel of truth behind it.

[Sally]

Random

A friend just sent this link round, curiously. Anyway, it seems pertinent - illustrating a 19th century view on the dangers and dire consequences of onanism...

http://http://dittrick.blogspot.com/2011/05/le-livre-sans-titre-1830.html

[Robert]

He could afford them. Unfortunately he couldn't afford the milk.....

[curious4]

Cereal killers

Hello all,

I believe Kelloggs cornflakes were designed to prevent young men from masturbating. Perhaps he couldnīt afford them?
C4

[Sister Hyde]

lol yes, and how many of them do I know

yeah except that in the world of today we don't lock them up in ice cold bathtubs. maybe it was some "comfort" thing.

[Versa]

yep definitely, well now we have the answer anyway... he was a wanker in the original meaning of the term, a manic one

lol yes, and how many of them do I know

[Sister Hyde]

Which in all fairness can be said about anybody.... The point is though IF the term meant self harmer rather than masturbation then Kosminsky could be viewed in a different light, ie possibly less sexually orientated...

yep definitely, well now we have the answer anyway... he was a wanker in the original meaning of the term, a manic one

[Stephen Thomas]

Somebody once told me that masturbation can be rather pleasant.

[Versa]

Hi Versa

I did a very quick search for self-abuse references in the Times. I couldn't click them all up but there were adverts coupling self-abuse with intemperance and libertinism. And specifically, there was a longish item from Aug 22nd 1888, a clipping from which is attached here. I think it's plain here that masturbation is meant - presumably the objector would have been Ok with restraint if it had been to prevent self-harm, which he'd probably have viewed as a medical purpose.

Thanks for that

Issue cleared up then!

[Versa]

If you do a search in Google Books for occurrences of the phrase "self-abuse" around 1890, you'll see that the results appear to relate almost exclusively to masturbation, and often to masturbation viewed as a cause of insanity.

Thanks that's pretty clear then!

[Versa]

if being extremely hurt by someone they can be just as violent toward that very person. they're not safe from snaping against the person who is hurting them inside in a moment of emotional distress.

Which in all fairness can be said about anybody.... The point is though IF the term meant self harmer rather than masturbation then Kosminsky could be viewed in a different light, ie possibly less sexually orientated...

[Robert]

Hi Versa

I did a very quick search for self-abuse references in the Times. I couldn't click them all up but there were adverts coupling self-abuse with intemperance and libertinism. And specifically, there was a longish item from Aug 22nd 1888, a clipping from which is attached here. I think it's plain here that masturbation is meant - presumably the objector would have been Ok with restraint if it had been to prevent self-harm, which he'd probably have viewed as a medical purpose.

[Chris]

If you do a search in Google Books for occurrences of the phrase "self-abuse" around 1890, you'll see that the results appear to relate almost exclusively to masturbation, and often to masturbation viewed as a cause of insanity.

[Sister Hyde]

A person that self harms is generally someone that internalises their anger/hatred etc (turns their aggression or anger in on themselves) as opposed to someone that externalises their hatred/anger/aggression. As such I personally would be less inclined to accept Aaron as JtR.

hm I'm not sure, people who tend to have a problem with self mutilations do internalise their pain alright, but it doesn't mean they can not snap against someone else. most of the time they're over sensitive emotionally, and if being extremely hurt by someone they can be just as violent toward that very person. they're not safe from snaping against the person who is hurting them inside in a moment of emotional distress. now my words are a bit messy i hope you know what i mean. friday night...